Are Relationships Without Arguments Real?
By: Zachary J. Lee Is there REALLY such a thing as an argument-free relationship? Sure, we’ve all heard friends or acquaintances say, oh we never fight. But it’s also evident they avoid real conversations that may inevitably lead to an argument. They keep it surface level. I’m talking about couples who don’t hold back. They aren’t afraid to tell their partner what they’re thinking and feeling. Dr. John Gottman says there are four types of conflict that tend...
Read MoreCreating Your Vision
Have you ever heard of a vision board? A vision board is a tool for inspiration and a helpful reminder of where you want to go in life. The cool thing is that you can have multiple vision boards for multiple goals that you want to accomplish and for daily reminders of things to be grateful for in your life. Your vision board can be extremely specific or more general for the future like the one above. On my vision board I have pictures of love, growing old with my wife, success, being a...
Read MoreDo You Hate Listening?
by: Zachary J. Lee Have you ever been accused of such a thing? To think that you – yes, you are capable of not being a good listener? For some of us listening comes rather naturally and is therefore easier for us to accomplish in our relationships. But, for some of us, we lack the attention, focus, and understanding of why listening is so important to our partner. Have you ever heard the phrase, “God gave us two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we...
Read MoreFostering Faith
By: Zach & Kate Lee Do you remember who taught you how to pray? Or who introduced you to God and Jesus? For us, it was our parents. One of the best things our parents did for us was to participate equally in teaching us about God and introducing us to the bible through stories, books, and taking us to Sunday school. One of the greatest gifts you can give to your children is for both you and your partner (when possible) to equally participate in the teaching of your children’s...
Read MoreNegotiating With God
By: Zach & Kate Lee As parents, we want to allow our children to have a voice, to feel heard, and to always feel free to express themselves – while being respectful. Our 2 ½ year old has taken this to heart, and lately we have daily negotiation sessions with her. When an option is presented, she has an innocent way of manipulating the situation to end in her favor. For example, we live next to a park in Stillwater, and every morning (around 7am) when she gets up she says,...
Read MoreGetting Shots
By Zach & Kate Lee If there are ever bad memories in the life of a parent and their child, one of those memories has to revolve around getting shots. What a pain – literally! This week, our whole family is getting a variety of shots that we wish we could skip. Oliver just got his 2 month shots; Claire, her 3 year shots; and Manny, along with both of us, have to get our flu shots. Although, maybe we can opt for the nasal spray this year if we’re lucky. Growing up is tough...
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LifeWorks was founded in 2004, and currently serves couples throughout Minnesota, North Dakota, and South Dakota. We partner with churches and organizations to offer both pre-marriage and marriage enrichment retreats for couples.
